I'm going to reject this "either–or" paradigm. Life is not so neatly divided. The way out of this dilemma is to embrace both approaches. There is a time to feel all the feels because it is unhealthy to suppress them. And there is a time to step outside and realize that better days and things can be ahead if you can let go of your attachment to what you no longer have. Embrace paradox because that is what it is all about.
I'm going to reject this "either–or" paradigm. Life is not so neatly divided. The way out of this dilemma is to embrace both approaches. There is a time to feel all the feels because it is unhealthy to suppress them. And there is a time to step outside and realize that better days and things can be ahead if you can let go of your attachment to what you no longer have. Embrace paradox because that is what it is all about.